I had really planned not to talk again anytime soon about blocking and my belief that quietly blocking people you don’t care to engage with is actually the best strategy for making and keeping a large circle of friends, acquaintances and professional contacts. Two recent interactions made me revisit that plan.
I suppose that I have long known in theory that someone who gets unceremoniously blocked by someone they scarcely recall meeting, let alone offending may be….let me use the word I really mean here…hurt by an action that the other party looked upon quite impersonally as a simple move to keep his streams clean. I did write a blog post about the charity guy who was a Facebook friend and acquaintance who blocked me after I offered a bit of constructive criticism in a venue that seemed appropriate to me. And what was really interesting to me was the comment that post brought from a woman I’ve come to like and respect, and genuinely enjoy chatting with across a number of platforms….whom I had at one time blocked. Honestly? I don’t remember at all when or why I blocked her in the first place. I don’t even particularly remember when or why I came to unblock her. I only really know about the incident at all because she so graciously replied and pointed out that I myself have done what my post seemed to criticize another for doing.
The longer I blog and the more people I interact with and get to know the more convinced I am that my friend Holly is absolutely correct in her assertion that ‘it’s all a matter of perspective‘. I’ve blogged before about my strong desire not to talk about politics online these days. I know that many of my online friends agree with much of what I think about politics and that many of my online friends disagree with much of what I think about politics. I would so much prefer to chat with folks about writing, about literature, about blogging, about social networking, about pie, about zillions of other things. I do not believe that I will ever get anyone to change their mind about divisive political topics that I have come to believe are not that important to me. And I so cherish that many chats I constantly have with lots of different people who share perspectives I find genuinely interesting.
I have learned that I maybe need to be a little more cautious about just pressing the block button the moment someone says “a word out of line”. Yet I remain fully convinced that not talking about politics and using the block functions on various sites to keep my streams clean of anything that feels toxic to me is a real key to blogging/social networking success for me. Gazes pointedly at my acquaintance Adam Justice.